Healer INFP

Typology description - Healer

If it can be said about any type that 'still waters run deep' it is exactly the healer (hereinafter INFP). They are calm, sensible, unobtrusive and mostly very pleasant persons. They can empathise with people close to them with intensity hardly seen in other personality types. They are able to develop a deep, even passionate, relationship to a few truly close people. In certain aspects INFP are similar to INFJ. Symbols play an important role in their lives and relationships. Their understanding of reality can even be mystically cosmic. The majority of INFP would only hardly describe their life orientation in such fundamentally metaphysical concept but many would probably agree that in the nature and the universe there is some kind of order, intention which should be felt and lived with it in harmony. It is them who will be the most inclined toward the stance that 'there are things between heaven and earth'.

They can be isolated in their stances, last but not least because their occurrence in population accounts for one percent.
INFP have a deep sense for honesty stemming from their inner world of their values. Cultural archetype of INFP is prince from a fairytale who would fight the evil irrespective of the danger. To understand them we have to comprehend what is the matter for them because the sacrifices they are able to make in what they believe know no boundaries. In their life they constantly strive to achieve unity, the unity of body and soul, emotions and intellect, heart and reason. In contrast to ISFP who can plunge into physical activity or pleasures of the flesh, the intuition of this type is not moving them in any way to any action but he/she can any time be satisfied with the understanding and interpretation in respect to the potential in ideals which they profess. However, they hardly endure and cope with difficulty with deviations and aberrations of all types, and they can show no mercy to renegades and heretics, even though it is them who become easily renegades and heretics. However, a profound interest in positive and good, even saving, objectives also causes that they are very perceptive to the evil and in principle to everything darker what exists in the world.

These types – otherwise 'still waters' can sometimes yield to temptations, and in thoughts but also literally to set out for 'somewhere else', e.g. to suddenly change job, leave their profession, family or religion. Rather then using categories of logic they decide and assess using terms such as beautiful-ugly, good-bad, pleasant-unpleasant or moral-amoral.

Also in partnerships the INFP can experience more love and warmth compared to what they show. It is difficult for them to talk about problematic parts of the relationship which can arouse discontent. Sometimes they hope the problem would be solved 'somehow'. They sometimes 'discuss' things with themselves and present their relatives with a fait accompli: 'I have decided to go and study.', 'I have handed in my notice today.' and so on. However, persons of this type mostly fulfil the ideal of a loving partner, maybe a bit chaotic, sometimes quiet and undecided but in any case a devoted one; the ideal that corresponds more to women than to men.

They are happy to listen, to cry for help that they are able and willing to offer even for the price of considerable sacrifices. Similarly to ISFP they can sometimes show off and be good actors. They can be great comedians, singers, presenters or moderators and thus their less known surrounding can perceive them as extroverts which they are not. After their public performances they usually need a sufficient amount of privacy in order to gain and restore the energy and to 'recharge batteries'.

Since as introverts they prefer the inner world of their real and imaginative truths what they can experience is their repeated torment by conflict between their ideals and what they really achieved in life. They can feel like someone who is not good enough for this or that, even though objectively they are no worse than others.

If they are supposed to be successful in their lives they have to be capable to balance their efforts to be helpful with the tendency to perfectionism which they are never able to achieve. They need to know when to say 'enough' and to start action instead of constantly trying to improve it. Usually they need by their side someone to whom they can confide and who at the same time keeps an eye that they respond to the letter on time, send the invoice and do not forget to take holidays.
Thanks to their not very well developed thinking, they are indiscriminate to the acceptance of the information their objectives can be totally mistaken. They can even be under the impression that they are above the moral and tradition.
Since IFP (healers, composers) do not like open conflicts their revolts are quiet and inconspicuous but no less stubborn. These can have a passively aggressive and manipulatory form. What is required from them they postpone forever, they waste time with useless things, they make things up and sometimes also lie and hope to get away with it.

They need to work on something or for something that they are really concerned about. As long as they have this ideal, and if they succeed to develop well the perception in order to realistically recognise possible problems and opportunities they can be really successful and achieve considerable self-confidence.